Formal Recruitment is different for everyone, but it’s safe to say all the women participating feel nervous at times! You might be anxious to make a good impression on the sorority members you meet, but keep in mind, they want to make a good impression on you too!
We talked to three of our active members, Lou, Parker, and Bea, to get a sense of how they felt when they were going through Recruitment. Hopefully reading their stories helps calm any nerves you may have, and gives you a sense of why joining UBC Sororities was right for them!
Lou Deville Kuenzlen
I had an incredibly difficult first year where I convinced myself I would never find a place where I felt I belong or people I could grow alongside. When I discovered UBC Sororities, it sounded like the ideal way to find a community of like-minded women who would be there for me and make my university experience memorable. Thankfully I was right, and I found the love and support I came into Formal Recruitment looking for.
My favorite memory from Formal Recruitment was one of the speeches given by a member of my sorority during Preference (the third round). Listening to her be vulnerable during her speech put things into perspective for me, and showed me that the women who are recruiting were just as vulnerable and nervous to meet me as I was to meet them. It made everyone feel so much more genuine, which really sealed the deal for me on which sorority I felt I belonged in.
When I was going through, I hadn’t even come close to realizing how much time and effort of the women who organize the entire recruitment process goes unnoticed. I didn’t realize that each chapter worked so hard and planned so much in advance to prepare to meet us. I had such a great experience in Formal Recruitment, that I knew I wanted to be a part of the process myself, and have loved being so involved in Recruitment this year.
Having gone through it myself, I’d say the most important thing is to remember to have fun with it! Formal Recruitment stressed me out a lot because I initially felt like I had to behave a certain way to please the girls I met, but that’s not true in the slightest. I had the most valuable conversations of the entire process when I allowed myself to loosen up, and let my personality shine through my nerves!
I’m from a small town of 5,000 people, so when I came to UBC it was definitely a big change; I decided to go through Formal Recruitment to find a community within massive UBC. I wanted to meet women that I could connect with, but I wasn’t sure what to expect when going through Recruitment. I had heard many different things about Sororities, so I just decided the best way to see if UBC Sororities was right for me, was to give it a try and find out for myself!
After Tours, the first round of Recruitment, I was pleasantly surprised by how kind, genuine, and truly amazing all the women who are a part of UBC Sororities are. It was so wonderful to have the opportunity to meet so many new people that are now members of all different sororities, but my favorite part was joining my Sorority! After joining, I found my people, my rocks, my best friends, and I love that Formal Recruitment gives everyone the opportunity to find their group, like I did.
My advice to anyone going through Formal Recruitment is to keep an open mind. When I was standing in the hallways of the Panhellenic House with a hundred other girls, everyone had their piece to say about the rooms we had just visited. However, just because one person didn’t connect with one specific sorority, doesn’t mean that it’s not a perfect fit for you! Come into recruitment looking for your new friends, mentors, and supporters, and go where you feel is right for you, not the girl standing behind you. It might seem hard in the moment, but I guarantee once you make it to the end and find the place you were meant to be with the people who are going to push you to be your best, you’ll be happy you did it.
Transferring from the Philippines to UBC in my second year, I went through Formal Recruitment hoping to find a sense of community on campus. I moved to Vancouver hardly knowing anyone, and I felt like joining UBC Sororities was the perfect opportunity to meet people, make new friends, and have fun! While I was excited about these opportunities, I went into Recruitment feeling a bit nervous, especially since I had no idea what to expect.
Before the first round, some of the typical ‘sorority stereotypes’ from movies – like members giving special attention to some girls and not others if they don’t think they fit in – went through my mind. But the more rounds I went through, the more I realized that the women I was meeting genuinely cared about what I had to say, and really made an effort to get to know me. It was nothing like what I saw in movies!
I thought the women who I was going through Recruitment with would keep to themselves, especially with me since I’ll admit I was shy at first, but after Tours, I realized that everyone was there to meet new people; my friend, a few girls we met during Recruitment, and I walked back to the bus loop and on our way there, we decided to grab dinner! During dinner, we started to get to know each other as we talked and joked around, I had tons of fun! It was really great because I not only got the chance to make new friends with girls already in the sororities we visited but also with the girls that went through Formal Recruitment with me. I still keep in touch with most of those girls – and now, some of them are my sisters!
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We hope that you enjoyed reading about Lou, Parker, and Bea’s Formal Recruitment experiences! Stay tuned for one more ‘Panhellenic Unplugged’ Blog, coming out soon, and if you haven’t already, check out the first! Don’t forget to #ConnectWithUs on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter!